Disclaimer: This post is not about positive thinking (well, not really). Do you recall the last time you had your personal crisis, feeling unworthy and misunderstood? And every single time when you're wondering what to do with your life, job, or partner it made you feel even more miserable? There are real problems, but they also occupy and challenge your mindset and the way how you see yourself. Let's be fair, changing mindset doesn't solve your problems, but it helps you to nurture a new attitude for your life.
Look, negative thoughts lead to negative habits, and therefore your expectations from others are always built on fear or ill grounds. People say, "think positively, dude, chillax!" What's true is that positive thinking makes you feel dumb and dibbled, unless you detach yourself from the situations which you put on replay in your head (I tell in a moment what detaching means).
What my experience suggests is to face your upsetting memories (unless they're too traumatizing, go to a psychotherapist). You might be asking what's a deal with blogging and my disturbing mind flow? Here comes detaching - is a change of perspective on yourself when you're consumed by your hectic thoughts. Writing a blog about your daily situations, being sincere with yourself allows you to undertake a detached position, especially if you write in the second or third person, e.g.: "Dear Luke, you were today such a dumbass, but look, it's alright, I don't want you to feel yourself bad". So, this type of blogging is called Personal Journal where you track your emotions, even those which are from the depth of your childhood.
A personal journal helps you to observe yourself like you're some other person, preferably a friend who accepts you and loves for no matter how shitty sometimes you are. Accepts and loves you is a key way you have to go before saying anything to yourself. Don't judge yourself, don't feel guilty or ashamed, just let your emotions be and explain why they were triggered. When writing, don't stick to the grammar or spelling, go with a flow and don't bug yourself what others might think (they don't give a shit, trust me, they might be suffering even more than you).
Procrastinating? - don't try to write anything good, especially at first attempt (get rid of expectations, seriously, it's neurotic). You don't have to come back to your post if you don't feel like publishing it. Begin by writing about anything, like filling in the date and time and describing what weather is now and how it makes you feel, write effortlessly, it should never be a burden for you, BUT try to remain focused. The more focused you're the more depth in observing you'll reach. Remember, writing should not frustrate you, it has to release your pain. If emotions hurt too much, don't push yourself, we want you to feel better, not worse.
You can publish your blog posts, but keep in mind that when it's private you're more open and sincere to yourself, and you don't try to adjust to others. There're blogging platforms where you can change the access from public to private, like Zecamp.
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